Other than a few sags here and there and some wrinkles...I really do appreciate my current age and the wisdom, understanding and peace it has brought me. I understand myself better than ever and can look back on the past and understand the lessons that living my life has taught me.
My goal now that I am in my 40's is to just BE HAPPY. Be happy with myself (and what I see in the mirror). Be happy with my family. Be happy for good health, good friends and a roof over my head. In my 20's and 30's, most of my life was spent running the hamster wheel. I look back now and wish I had savored that time. It went so fast! However, I don't want to GO BACK either! I want to live in the NOW and keep MOVING forward. (Literally and figuratively!)
Now I know that life is a LONG race and it's not just the current "sprint" you are running. It's a marathon. Among the most important lessons I have learned and that I hope to convey to my son are: It is OK to be yourself and to do your own thing. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. This is YOUR life and it's for you to LIVE! Accept yourself as the unique individual that you are. You are made to be YOU for a reason. Passing on my own life lessons to my own child is often difficult and I have realized that he has his own "race to run." After all, I was also someone who had to learn everything by doing it on my own. (And had to pick the pieces along the way!)
Recently, I watched an Oprah interview with Goldie Hawn and found her words to be really inspirational: "What matters to me is giving back. So just because you get older doesn’t mean things stop. It’s when YOU stop...it’s when YOUR wonder stops...it’s when YOUR innovation stops...it’s when YOUR creativity stop that you allow your SELF to go asunder. The beauty of getting older is the surprise of what else you can do to make the world a better place with the wisdom you’ve accrued over those years." Goldie also said that when she was asked what she wanted to be when she grew up, she always said "To Be Happy." She said people always repeated the question expecting her to name a profession, but she persisted in her answer (as her wise parents had told her this was what was most important).
I want to be just like Goldie when I grow up! Find the little things that make you happy and enjoy them. Lighting a candle, putting some fresh flowers in my home, walking my dog, drinking peppermint tea and spending time with special people in my life make me happy. Surround yourself with things and people you find beautiful and inspirational to you. BE HAPPY!
What things in your life bring you the most joy and happiness?